Friday, 6 January 2017

Parenting advice and parenting top tips by mums

Parenting advice really can be a double edged sword, the information we are given by health professionals is at times very far from the reality of what you are experiencing especially with added hormones thrown into the mix, the well meaning relatives and friends all have their ideas of what will 'fix' your problems too. Then there are our parenting pet hates we love to share that make you feel guilty if you do that thing that pisses someone off.
So i have rounded up some mummy bloggers for their best tips, advice they were given or would give to a new mum or things they wish they knew.

There is light at the end of the tunnel


My number one tip would be create a bedtime routine as soon as you can see a routine in sleep patterns emerging, around three months with mine, i have never had major sleep issues, although they try to push boundaries now and we have the usual post teat time battles and fights and million questions at bedtime that make it quite frustrating but not refusal to sleep and once they are asleep they do usually stay there until morning.

First up is the lovely Hannah from theamphletts
-For the first time mummies, find the courage & confidence to leave the house & try local baby groups - a great place to meet friends & get support, knowing your not alone in the hurdles and sleepless nights does really help.

Kate from www.fivelittlestars.com
- It is probably a phase and so it shall pass, and sleep breeds sleep
I remember taking comfort from knowing this with number two, having experiencing different phases with number one, knowing it will pass does make it easier.

Lisa from www.backsnbumps.com
-Have confidence in yourself, it is a really steep learning curve and nobody knows your baby better than you...and....after three babies..make it up as you go along there really is no right or wrong as every baby is different.

Emily from www.babiesandbeauty.com
-Don't get stressed over visitors, it is ok to say no and give yourself a week or two to adjust before accepting people around, do not feel obliged to let people visit, its your baby and house so everyone can wait until you are ready.

Jennifer from www.mymummyspennies.com
-Trust your instinct and feel confident enough to ask for help if needed, but nod and smile and then ignore all the advice you didn't ask for, you know your child.

Katie from www.reolifeblog.wordpress.com
-simply - Choose your battles
A very well learnt lesson for all of us i think, parenting is hard enough without fighting battles you cannot win

Mo from www.adventuresofanovicemum.co.uk
- 'they grow so quick' how true. Cherish the moments.
and, read and learn from your child instead of books on other people's children, "words cannot describe the freedom I've known with this"

Beth from www.bammboo.co.uk
- It is ok not to enjoy every minute, but try and breathe in your babies smell look into your babies eyes and say i love you every so often.
So true, we all feel pressure to be happy and overwhelmed with maternal instincts and love, sometimes no it is not enjoyable but that never takes away the love you have.

Clare from www,emmysmummy.com
-There is no such thing as spoiling a baby, if they are clingy and want cuddles go with it, while it may get frustrating at times it will not last forever.

Sarah from www.whimsicalmumblings.co.uk
-If you feel you are losing it or child will not stop whining take 5 minutes, step outside the room and breathe.

Laura from www.maxandmummy.co.uk
-If you have a toddler and it goes quiet it is safe to say mischief is occurring
This is so true..the dreaded silence

Kirsty from lifewithboys.co.uk
- Every baby is different, what works for one will not always work for another, so do not stress yourself over what isn't working and find the thing that will

Nicole from themumreviews.co.uk
- It is my job to provide them with food not to make them eat it

Helen from www.allthebeautifulthings.co.uk
-I once read it takes three days to break a habit so i try to remember this ..so if your trying to sleep train, take dummy away etc etc stick with it and hopefully after three days you will have cracked it.

Natasha from www.mummyandmoose.co.uk
- Your main job as a parent is to arm your child with enough skills that they no longer need you, i have found this to be true....also always put the sudocrem pot out of reach
Yep i second that one

Care from www.carejohnson.blogspot.com
- Local stay and play group have been a lifesaver, gives the child a routine and gets them socialising with other children, and  also means you can manage to have a hot cup of coffee, quite a rarity for most mums!!

Louise from www.mummymiller.com
- Don't listen to anyone else, trust your gut instincts

Kelly from www.kellyrobinson-key.co.uk
- Mother knows best - i honestly believe a mother's instinct is best, if you feel you are doing the right thing for your baby then ignore the negative comments you may get.

Karen from www.missingsleep.co.uk
- Don't beat yourself up all the time, you are doing a great job and must remember that
I love this, we do so love to beat ourselves up for the what if and maybe's, we do the best we can and that is an amazing achievement

and final word from Emma from www.meandbmaketea.com
- best advice - stop listening to other people's advice!! basically stop listening to other people's opinions on just about everything when it comes to parenting.

So there we have it, thank you Ladies i think we got some good advice in there for anyone looking, the most popular being - you know your baby, let your maternal instincts guide you, what works for one may not work for you, it doesn't make you wrong or different just that YOUR baby has different needs...

4 comments:

  1. Loved reading through these, some made me laugh, and totally agree! Sudocream outta reach, and that you know your child best! Routine at bedtime is defo a top tip if you can get one.

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  2. Thanks Meryl, we love bedtime ;)

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  3. I love how parents all have different tips. There's never 1 that stands out as the must have, it's all a mix of lots of ideas.

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  4. wow some fab tips. For me the hardest thing was realising that I couldn't control things anymore. This little person tired when she wanted to and slept when she wanted to and I had to let go of trying to be perfect! I had to embrace mess and feeling disorganised and just focus on loving her and myself

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